. He acknowledges that he walked on eggshells with his father, and he recognizes that our three kids and I have had to “occasionally” do the same with him. I am still trying to learn to ignore him after all these years. Without a warning. Let me mention a few things real quick, we have no children, he has no job (always in and out of jobs) and he smokes marijuana daily. My husband is constantly mad. I just dont know what to do. Assuming the woman is stuck in the kitchen preparing food all day and not in the same boat of working all day just as "the man" of the house does? I really appreciate your post as a woman, because you give meaningful advice for those who truly believe in marriage and want it to work. 2. While frightening me and anyone else who is in earshot? I saw his website www.kunimeherbs.com. He yells "don't start your shit." I have dealt with several different types of abusive relationships and realized I was unhealthy and picking unhealthy men. I think that the volatile situation our world is in also contributes to his anger. Men are just controlling, finger pointing narcissists. While he is the most idol husband one would want in terms of equality in a relationship, he has a very bad temper issue and he refuses to accept it. If who ever suffers anger issues its because they have no communication skills so they need to go to classes learn how to communicate . His kids don't call him (unless he guilts them into it). If he can't help himself, I'm not sure how much longer I can tolerate this. It's difficult for them to ignore you when it's just you in front of them. I threatened to leave if he cost us anymore money or nonsense. Anger literally makes one's blood boil so it is only a matter of time. A monster is a monster. The prophet (S.A.W.S.) I can't even take her along when I go out with my friends because if she's in a bad mood or if she doesn't click along with the friend she'll make a long face in front of them and not want to eat or talk or engage at all. Calls me bitch. My family hates him. You all deserve love, kindness, and your minds to be at peace. Coz no point to react to it. Then the man starts wanting to cuddle and be close because she doesn’t need it anymore, he’s destroyed her need and desire for him, then he wants it because she is no longer seeking it. 4. Ownership. He doesn't realize it costs us so much more because of his illness. I never complain about his annoying habits because I know he will probably not change them and because I don't want to make him upset. My children are grown and I merely do what I want when his behavior is out of control. :(. Whoa whoa, add fresh foods to YOUR meals? She'll scream at me for little things,even though I have told her so many times how sensitive I am and how easily I cry,she would keep on doing it. Whenever someone hurts or bothers you mentally or verbally, these points below should come to your mind and help you regain your composure: Everything happens by the will of God and the person expressing their anger is using their free will. I pray all the time just to have the strength to deal with him. Do whatever you can to keep them away from your kids...violence can be passed down to future generations but it’s up to you to stop the cycle. Not sure what to do. Trying to make it work. I have no friends no family. The constant state of being out of control, angry, and irritable takes an enormous toll on everyone. Always “my”fault! As sad as I am he’s going I am also incredibly relieved and looking forward to peace and respect in my home. Let me just say, it doesn't get easier. If he drops a fork then repeatedly stabs that fork into the dishwasher, red faced and screaming, we should just wait until he calms down? We had good years together but then I realised that when he is stressed at work he just gets pissed and angry. I have experienced a reduction in income so our electric, gas, internet, water is all late. He tells me i dont get to make the rules in the house and whatever he says i must abide to it. It is truly like living with Dr Jekyl and Mr Hide. and you will start formulating a real plan! He is making my success a failure and I don't understand why I love him so much and why it is so hard to leave him. That, hey, it is normal to feel angry once in a while. If you want to take matters into our hands then look deeply into the nature of your mind in order to find the true source of all anger and suffering. He tells me that i dont have to be too nice to our son so as not to get him spoilt. Says I am not sincere and it is dumb that I cry) and of course it will now go away until the next time which gets closer and closer here lately. :( I know I am not going to do anything about it but I hope I one day gain the strength or he changes. Turtlebait, Your words have been the encouragement I needed! With him I am realising that I apologise a lot, even for things I probably should not apologise for. Because of Covid-19 most of us are staying home,pardon my English if it’s not so perfect.My husband he is lovable person I can name it. I only have two options: one to fight him and feel miserable or two, to just take it and say sorry. Emotionally, physically, and mentally he broke me down. Sometimes even my breathing upsets him when my allergies are bad. It’s sad to see so many beautiful, loving women being treated like this because these men are too stupid to see what they have and to actually value and respect us. Everything is 50/50 and he often make digging remarks about how I need to up my game. Why is it okay for them to behave this way but I bet you if the wife did then it would be a different story. I am under no obligation to keep up with her tantrums and do everything her ways and satisfy her wants every single time. Saying sorry is just making it worse now. He's a great and wonderful loving man for the most part but when he loses his cool it's like living in hell. I try to listen and show empthy but i ask him point blank why is he uoset with me. I’m stuck and there is no way out. I suggested we remove me from the page and make it his fb, because I don't want my clients to see an opinion that is not mine especially since I am not one to voice an opinion about controversial things. He use to be different but really not. I have continued to pay housing, bills, and groceries. They can either choose to be better from self realization, research, therapy, etc., or choose to do nothing. No one respects him. It's embarrassing for me too and is a disrespect towards my friends and me especially. If that doesn’t work prepare him a healthier meal... joke! I tried dealing with his anger every way I knew how - boundaries - to him those were just one more thing to verbally and emotionally abuse me over. And my body is in a constant state of pain. We have been together 20 years and married 4 years ago. He abuses the hell out of me without a good reason. We barely have sex. Two weeks ago things got really bad. Relations between people are very important in Islam, and maintaining good relations with others should be a main priority of a practicing Muslim. The illness is incredibly isolating, and those experiencing it often feel like they’re the only ones who’ve ever felt that way – even if … Patience can serves as the antidote to anger within yourself as well as your partner. If I let the house foreclose, well the loan is in my name only. I love my husband but he can kick rocks if he thinks this is what I signed up for. This is 2020 it is not a womans issue to make sure her husband is eating a proper diet, who makes sure im eating properly? My husband is brutal. It becomes tiring to cope with the stress, and at times, it may even become unbearable. I’m extremely independent. I’m trying to find the courage to leave!!!!! Since that didn’t work either then he went for the most senseless one. I am tired of this mental abuse and I am stuck not knowing what to do. However, this shouldn't be abused! Best thing to do is get out! Best of luck. For more tips on living with an angry husband, read Dealing With Unresolved Anger in Relationships. He's made countless friends uncomfortable, and I don't even invite people over anymore because I don't wan to subject them to his unpredictable wrath. Seek a good counselor, find a church, and/ or find a support system. Thank you! Very good article, however reading the comments related to this article break my heart. Wrong behaviors are wrong, abuse is abuse, and what happens is that at age 50 and higher most women just settle into their relationships because the man never changed. Aye theres the rub. Anger is a very harmful emotion as it not only hurts the person it is aimed at, but the real victim is the one who expresses it. Robin. Since I have high respect for myself as a person, that is how I deal with this. I honestly don’t know what mood he’s gonna be in when he comes home from work. I’m in the same exact boat as you are. I asked why he had nothing nice to say - the reply was that I am not a nice person. I typically won’t travel with him because travel brings out his temper and outbursts. I LOVE my husband but he is pushing me further and further away. You cannot control their reactions, attitudes, demeanors, or even core values. Stop participating in the vicious cycle of “he gets angry; I get angry.” Choose not to react during heated times. You’re a bunch of fucking idiots, completely NOT self aware, & quite frankly stupid. So, as he ages and tires, this effort becomes less and less likely. I’m physically and mentally exhausted. Idk man that kinda behavior it’s just weird to me. I feel stuck and hopeless. Set boundaries (with respect), disengaged when he started getting emotionally abusive. I was so close about a week ago but I apologized and reasoned with him, If I leave him a while, he becomes loving again. Wow I’m so happy, he is now so positive and motivated with life. If I could change my body, my energy level, and my thin-skin, it would be okay, I read this after the upteenth angry episode about nothing. Just need some $ in a nest egg first. And While you are planning your escape, learn how to set effective boundaries with him to quell the chaos in the household. I'd like to share a few things about anger from a guy's perspective, based on my own past and actions. Temper and jealousy emerged within the second year. The one big difference between a husband and a volcano is that you can more easily move away from one of them.However, on the other hand, a husband is also more manageable than a volcano. He's very moody and I show compassion as much as I can. He is however easily wonded and I wanted tips on how to prevent hurting him. We don’t hug, kids or have sex. This was a good read, im hoping based on how much I ressignate with this article that if I find the strength to follow through with these steps in how to react it will maybe mend our relationship. He stays gone til wee hours into the next day and claims he is working yet never contributes financially. There is no affection in our marriage anymore. Thus, the message of hope is an essential element of Islam and a Muslim who loses hope actually gives up on Allah, which is not the Muslim way of dealing with things. I beg him to stop and not spend so much money on it. If he wanted that year we would save him a couple of plats for when he came home at midnight and we could talk about rights then. Personally, I think a better answer is to smother them in their sleep. So the next time they call you a name, just laugh it off and visualize them as a 5 year old throwing a tantrum. 5 days off stuck at home with this attitude. Not saying that I am perfect or without flaws but no matter how angry I get with my husband (I can’t the number on one hand) I would never treat him the way he treats me when he’s upset. They need to seek help and get whatever unresolved childhood issues they have resolved. Dealing with Unlovable Husband. Stay or go. Sorry, I’m calling BS on most of this. So even if I tried to move out, I don’t have funds for a moving truck, deposit and first months rent. I'm sorry to tell you, but most of comments here are from women who are abused. Feeling scared around them, or going through an emotional roller coaster ride because of their behavior towards you might get difficult to handle. It’s just him and my teens. I have been married for over 25 years. This article places no accountability on the husband.. just tip toe around walking on eggshells. Usually, it takes at … Because overall, its not worth it. Your instinct is to respond to your spouse with anger when you know he or she has been drinking. He told me until he finished his meal if I touched another thing on his table he would break my arms as I plead we were just going out to the club and all because he really was not happy about working the holiday he was making a scene in front of family and friends and he really did not look like he was clean enough covered in metal chips, sweat, coolant. If he cannot be an adult and control his own emotions he is not worth wasting my breath on. (Our pages on managing outbursts and long-term coping have some tips on how to deal with anger.) I got out of 25 years of anger of my estranged husband which yes there times to try working things out..but..the last time he had uncontrollable anger he gave me a black eye and broke my clavicle.. i said enough is enough.. For example, if you start crying, it may evoke the same feeling inside, and the little voice in his head may say: “Men don’t cry.” So what you may get in return is an angry outburst that will attempt to suppress your cry. It’s him. He does all sorts of things i dont like but i cannot say anything because i dont contribute to our living expenses. It’s like; he doesn’t get it. He want only money. The abuser in your life is completely aware that you are dependent on him and therefore will continue to allow the abuse because you are willing to trade your self-respect for that security. If he loves you, he will do whatever he can to change and if it’s been years, he like it’s (the power and control) more than you! I can't talk to my husband or do anything without him getting angry. Wish I were kidding. Because of culture (most cultures excuse bad male behaviour because "He works so hard") we can "pass" at least I hope so! Man up and be an adult. He would humiliate and scream at me in public places like restaurants. Why should I have to constantly make excuses for an asshole? My husband gets mad over anything I would always think his gona change but no 19 years have past and he hides his money very upset all the time I can’t hug him goodnight becus his tired and stressed his always in a horrible mood the boys are big already no one wants to be around him . After we got married, i moved to the country where my husband lives. If all us woman came together and worked as a team we wouldn’t need any of these men. He wants more and more from me--work full time, still do all the house and kids by myself, maintain my body, have energy for what he calls sex, and somehow manage to do it all on his timetable, at his convenience, without expecting him to contribute, and be willing to drop everything and jump to his whims. I'm not alone... the advice above is great. He blames it on his diabetes, but if we could have a better life, why can't he try to quit) and now he is unemployed trying to get disability and trying to lazily start a business building gas powered bicycles (really he is just eating up my money). There are so many resources available. I walk away but I shouldn't have to constantly be walking on egg shells. You don't owe him squat, you owe yourself more!! We knew he was not happy about being the one to work the double holiday shifts every year in his plant and many times had just tried to get him to use the alternative to making lesser seniority work instead after The New Year. Just how to kerp getting by. I feel bad about it but am trying to find a way to make it up to him. We are not married, I don't think I am the marriage type but for sure I know I don't want to marry him. I passed it off as moody in order not to have to tell my mom that this is how he can be when angry. For many people, the thought of giving up their fa... Admit it or not, when somebody hurts us, we don't feel good and sometimes may feel the urge to respond to them in the same way. but when a man is mad o gosh its a problem and they can say and do what they want because they are men and it only counts as "real feelings" when they are upset. He kept telling me I can’t wait for me to be home do you miss me he had the house clean for me the next thing I know he starts being an asshole to me and took my handicap placard it out of my purse. I have lost respect for him as a person, husband and father. Domestic violence will escalate, so please protect yourself and your children from these monsters. Feeling scared around them, or going through an emotional roller coaster ride because of their behavior towards you might get difficult to handle. For the people that have been physically assaulted, please seek help in leaving. He said that we should go get them together months ago and I forgot about the conversation. My sister once told me our relationship is relationship gold (no more than a year ago). How can we fix this? This is the best possible response to irritating people. I have been trying so hard to make sure i learn this language and get a good job so i can also support him but he doesnt see all those efforts of mine. For example, dealing with a boss, parent, or spouse may call for different strategies than dealing with a co-worker, sibling, or child. All I can say is that every time he screams, he is putting a bigger wedge between us. I feel sad for all the woman here:(. Frankly, I don't know why I have either! I will not make excuses for him. I refuse to talk back I only nod or say ok ,and if possible find something else to distract me,it doesn’t necessarily make me feel better ,it however does not give him the satisfaction of seeing that he has upset me ! I feel empty. Apart from him earning the paying the bills, theres nothing else he does other than hanging out with friends, eating and sleeping except he feels like cooking which hardly happens. He is more good than bad, but it is very difficult to love and respect an extremely large fat four year old in A 45+ YEAR OLD BODY. I relate in so many ways than one. Stay Safe, and Involve Others I should leave. At first he wanted me to terminate but i refused. he is a lunatic getting mad at anything he doesn't agree with. You dont see a parallel with what you say here and the responsibility you put on women? I guess since I never placed a boundary about his anger and abusiveness, he won't change. What if difficult means something terrible? Most people would think of anger as an emotion that’s part and parcel of life. I made a comment about a checking account he’s opened to put the house money in, because he will only have a checkbook for it, no bank card. For Me seeing them … Anger is a very harmful emotion as it not only hurts the person it is aimed at, but the real victim is the one who expresses it. I look forward to being home alone and taking days off alone. I cant believe how many of us woman live the exact same lives. We got together when I was 17 and he 18. Whether she is on her period or she is just having an emotional meltdown, you don’t want to feed the fire and only make her angrier. When you can defuse someone's anger, it can enhance your professional reputation, and it can help you deal with people who struggle to manage their emotions. I’m scared. Whenever he is off work he is OK. He did not pay his share of the rent for nearly 8 months. 9 Clever Ways to Deal with Negative People 1. Dealing with Unlovable Husband. I excused it because he was young. 3mo and now who knows when it will happen again.I have become numb, cold and basically cannot stand him. I have put up with emotional and some physical abuse for way too long. I even most of the time think it is. I bought new plants for the apartment without including my husband. Truthfully I have been married 23 years, he gets angry, pissy, arrogant, loud, etc.. he’s my pain in the butt. Makes me dislike men in general. I have been experiencing his anger for that amount of time. He switched jobs (he had a driving job) and it seemed like he was better. He stares at me and usually goes into a tantrum and heads for the garage. Try to always take a calm and relaxed approach to the conflicts. Yet he can’t pay my phone not even once. It is very easy for the situation to get out of hand if you both get angry with each other. A friend of my told me about Kunime medicine that help her mother Parkinson’s disease and get free Miraculously after using herbal treatment from Dr Fabien. Even in the good times it was a passive-aggressive wearing down. He claims. Then it became an more aggressive. Expressing Views. Addiction can be one of the most difficult situations that can occur within a marriage. I always pay for groceries and the Internet but he never chips in. try to take some of the emotion out of it to stay clear headed to make good decisions for yourself. I got healthier, I have better relationships with people, and I found me again. Sorry low hormones , women have to get through periods the child birth the change and some of us have to care for elderly parents mine both had dementia , please don’t make excuses for these excuses who call them selves men , hopefully not all men , there are so many people who complain about the same things being blamed for being them selves just nice normal people and for some reason or other this is okay that these monsters treat them as if they poison Why. The fourth husband's right in Islam is to control who enters the house and who does not. It has changed me as a person. He was raised in a similar volatile environment and at times, I have been afraid he would psychically harm me. So hope with me trying hell put in the effort to help himself. It’s not our fault not should we have to change or accept your lack of awarenesses. Tonight I blew off a story he was telling me because I was reading my book when all he wanted was to share a funny experience with me. This is the 2nd marriage for both of us so we don't have kids at home anymore. We have to pay attention to the advice Islam gives us in situations where we find ourselves at the "receiving end" and feel hurt by someone else's actions or words. Screaming at traffic, swearing all the time, angry with everyone, mean and childish with me. Perhaps you can convince him to seek some help from a mental health professional. Today I want to share with you 9 clever ways to deal with the negativity that comes your way from those you love and care about in a more positive and effective way. Thank you so much for sharing. Will sigh outwardly and e. This is anything I say. I do not have time for his negativity and toxic behavior. We live abroad so I cannot really leave and go back home easily. I am his safety net. Do NOT put your self appreciation, self worth, or self confidence in the hands of anyone else! I feel like a toy two kids are fighting over. he is F**CKED UP in the head, its not your fault!! Even though my partner is not a man she does engage herself with anger alot. It’s never ok to treat a human like an enemy and my biggest regret is that I didn’t do it 30 years ago. Recently he informed me he lost money gambling. While other’s anger can feel like acid on your face, learning how to deal with angry people can be fun and rewarding. I won’t let him get away with it either and this doesn’t end well. I tried to explain helpless to his anger but that only made it worst he went off on a massive rage destroying things in his path. But, we have dogs - that he LOVES! batchelorjulie4@gmail.com on March 09, 2020: Some husbands are just clueless about how to behave towards there wives they just lack manners and are unable to see the hurt they cause , there ego is far more important to them . That may sound bad but I have Walt with some bad shit!!!! The reason is that if he gets mad he starts to show me the cold shoulder and stops speaking to me for days. Pick yourself up and become the best version of yourself that you can be. I am retired and have no money. I’m over it. It's insulting. How To Deal With Anger: A Gentle Guide. I'll tell him that I'm setting boundaries and I don't like the yelling and condescending comments. I’ve told my albatross that while I no longer am in love with him, I do love him as a person and will be with him when he dies. His major issue are gays, feminism, and activists. This is the exact same situation I’m going threw at the very moment. Of course I had my reasons for staying like many of us all do, KIDS, $$, fear of failure, appearances to family, whatever. But I do this to keep myself sane. He makes over 100,000 a year and I make about 20,000. (Strong) I also think by not taking the blame (as it's not my fault he has anger issues) it only makes him more angry. He gets depressed about the political climate. I don't care how long you have toiled with someone who is angry and mean. I work from home and he doesn't work, so he sits there all day long on fb. Dealing with a crabby wife can be outright difficult, simply from the fact that her moods go off almost all the time. Learning healthy ways to recognise, express and deal with anger is important for our mental and physical health. One of the last fights, I said how are you trying to file disability and trying to start a company, that is not how it works. The latter is up to him. My husband will just erupt and it's impossible to know when it will occur. He vomits uncontrollably and it lasts about a week each time. I have not one person to turn to. I’m feeling alone because I have tried all of the above. It can be as frequent as monthly and up to every 3 months (like clockwork). I still hurt from my spouse living me a year and a half ago for his co worker. I refuse to desert him now, but it’s very tough to stay. It sucks life is hard. I will not give him the satisfaction of seeing me upset anymore. 9 Clever Ways to Deal with Negative People 1. Just came in and gave me a kiss and looked me lovingly in the eyes like if apologizing but he rarely apologizes (I apologize and cry but he hates both. BUT...unlike my husband, I don't dwell on it. Who Loves being angry as a lifestyle choice. Because I am not sure you know these things” “I don’t want excuses, lunch is at 12:30, Dinner is at 7” “we need to...” code for you better do this or I will explode. I cry so much and feel depressed again. Brave the storm or brave the unknown. 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